There are thousands of reasons to feel sad and dejected, and only one reason to smile and feel happy. This only reason is – YOU. Only you can make yourself happy or sad. Because it is totally your decision. You are the master of your own emotions.
Here are five ways to help you find your happiness within yourself-
1.”Take it easy bro.”- When anyone asks you for a suggestion related to their life, you give an honest and non judgmental opinion and that too very easily. But when it comes to your own life decisions, out of nowhere, you become very serious .As a result, your miniature problem becomes king size, just because of your point of view. So try to see your problems just as a third person would see it. Then you can make quality decisions in life.
LIFE IS NOT THAT TOUGH AS YOU THINK, SO DON’T TAKE LIFE TOO SERIOUSLY
2. “Stay away from expectations”- expectation is the greatest evil of our lives. It is never the situation that causes grief. We ourselves are the CULPRIT. We do not see ourselves for who we are, rather we see ourselves for who we want to be. When it comes to the question of what we want to become in life, the question misleads us to think of a final position in life. But the truth is, it’s a journey and not a destination.
3. ”Don’t try to figure out everything” – although you must have an idea, never try to figure out your future, because you will never be able to do that. Life is unpredictable. You never know what happens the next moment. At every turn, life has something new in store for you. It never fails to surprise you.
So what to do? Here comes the mantra of life, JUST GO WITH THE FLOW. Don’t just get stuck at a place. Keep moving. Just live in the moment. Think what suits you now? What is your love? What makes you happy? , then work on it. Don’t try to picture yourself in future . It will cause more stress and disappointment than good.
Destiny will drive you to your destination. So just keep going on with your actions.
STOP EXPECTING AND START EXPLORING
4. “It is always the journey that counts and not the destination”- Your happiness must not depend on your success or failure. For example- situation 1: John is working hard for achieving the best employee award and the associated raise. But he doesn’t love his work. He is just working to get the raise and then be “happy”. This means if he fails to get the raise , he will remain sad as he was during the entire course of work.
Situation 2: Jenny is also working hard for the same raise. But she loves her work. That means even if she fails to get the raise, she will be happy, as she did her work efficiently. Her work experience is the reason for her happiness.
SO CONNECT YOUR HAPPINESS TO THE THINGS WHICH ARE ETERNAL. ISOLATE YOURSELF FROM TRANSIENT FORMS OF HAPPINESS.
5. “Be observant”- It is well said that “ordinary is extra ordinary”. Use your senses to enjoy the simplest joys in life like warmth of sunlight in winter mornings, listening to your favourite song, seeing the squirrels’ play etc. All these inconspicuous things will create moments of significant happiness in your life.
I hope all these suggestions, based on experiences will help you.