Everyone has a role model or someone you look up to or admire. According to Wikipedia, a role model is a person whose behavior, example, or success is or can be emulated by others, especially by younger people. Your role model may be a renowned celebrity or a successful person from your dream work or even your family member.
We want to work like them, dress like them, and even talk like them. We want to have same views as theirs’. We want to respond to situations the same way as they do. Sometimes we tend to change our likes and dislikes according to them.
But in the race of tracing the trails of our role model, the essence of originality is left behind. We tend to follow them so blindly, that at times, we cannot recognize ourselves. It may end up into a vicious play of imitation.
Due to this we tend to pretend something which we are actually not. Following our role model blindly may land us in situations of frustration as a result of futile trials to become like one.
The truth of life lies in the fact that everyone is different, special in their own way; everyone has a way with one or the other thing. You are unique, just one of a kind. So why are we wasting our precious time and energy in being something which is not in our basic nature?
It is well said “ BE YOURSELF”. Be yourself actually means to behave or act in accordance to your basic nature. Suppose you have that instinctive knowledge and love for music, beats and you have a raw voice which needs a little polish to come up with something great. You like to create music; something which is original. Instead of this inherent knack, you are pushing yourself into sports and athletics just because your father was an ideal sportsperson and you want to be like him.
“The snow goose need not bathe to make itself white, neither need you do anything to be yourself. ” – Lao Tzu, Chinese philosopher
Deviating from your basic nature makes it difficult to deal with life. It takes absolutely NOTHING to be yourself. So it is the easiest and the toughest job at the same time. Some ways to be yourself are-
1.Accept yourself for who you are – “stop assuming , start accepting”- whatever is it- good or bad, nice or ‘not so nice’ things about yourself. Feeling good for your strengths will increase your self esteem and accepting and working on your shortcomings makes you a better person.
“Being myself – I’m not doing it wrong; I’m just doin’ it MY WAY “
2. Have faith in yourself – You can either be your strength or weakness. It is totally your choice. Never try to bring yourself down because if you do it,then believe me ! you will surely succeed. If you believe in yourself strongly, everybody else will venture to believe in your belief.
3. Express yourself – start expressing yourself, and you will get to know a better YOU. It helps you to be aware of your own ideas, thoughts and opinions
4. Explore yourself – we should know our limits, then only we can go beyond them. Introspect yourself for the infinite possibilities that you have . This helps in experiencing the different versions of yourself ; comparing and selecting the best one will not remain a task then.
5.Revive the child in you – have you ever observed a child? You will see how carefree they are about what other people think of them. They have not yet been ‘socialized’ enough to feel the pressure to get an acceptance from the society. We tend to suppress our true nature out of the fear that people will judge you. Just ask yourself , “even if I am being judged by the society, how does it matter to me? Will it make any difference to me?” Asking these questions to the ‘REAL YOU’ and not the ‘SOCIALIZED YOU’ will give the true answer.
So what are your experiences about being yourself ?